Spank someone

Spanking someone

Spanking can range from a single slap during love making to an extended punishment which may even replace the normal sex.

It may appear that if you are both interested in spanking, that you are bound to be compatible. Nothing could be further from the truth. What one spanko feels they need can be totally unacceptable to another, so if possible talk and negotiate first. Generally it must be good for the spankee, the spanker can more easily agree give way for the other person.

When spanking is on the cards it is useful to consider:

1. anticipation - Will the spankee know in advance? How much?
2. dress - Will either or both parties dress specially, perhaps to indicate a role, or for added anticipation or humiliation.
3. ritual - Much spanking occurs with some type of role play eg. teacher-pupil. This dictates a sequence in event which both of you expect.
4. how hard? - Some like lots of strokes and lots of pain, other like only a bit. Choice of clothing and implements can give the spanker and spankee a different idea about how hard it was and help you to be compatible.
5. humiliation - The spankee is exposed and vulnerable. Some will not wish anything to heighten that feeling, others will not be satisfied unless the spanker takes the fullest possible advantage of the opportunity to belittle them.
6. what sex may follow - Some will want the sex to be loving and unconnected with what has happened, others prefer the spanker to stay in charge and feel acts which don't show that are inappropriate.
7. Afterwards - Talk about it honestly if you possibly can.